Around many cultures, theirs is a myth that a bigger penis equals better sex.

It’s everywhere—from our cultural beliefs to what we see in movies and porn, and even in our everyday conversations. But is it really true? Let’s break it down and get real about this topic.

Where does this belief come from?

• Cultural influence: In many African societies, including Ghana, there’s a long-standing tradition associating larger genitals with fertility and masculinity. These ideas have been passed down through generations, making them deeply ingrained and hard to shake off.
• Media pressure: Look at movies, TV shows, and especially porn—bigger always seems to be portrayed as better. These exaggerated depictions create unrealistic expectations and keep feeding the myth that size is everything.
• Social expectations: When your buddies start comparing sizes or cracking jokes, it can create a lot of pressure to measure up to some idealized standard of manliness.

What is the real deal about penis size?

• Average size: Studies show that the average erect penis is between 5.1 to 5.6 inches (13 to 14 cm). That’s the norm across different races and backgrounds. So, if you’re in this range, you’re perfectly normal and good to go.
• What women really think: Surveys published in serious journals like the British Journal of Urology International reveal that a majority of women (85%) are totally satisfied with their partner’s size. What matters more to them? It’s about emotional connection and how good the sex feels overall. Only a small 15% actually care about size as a big deal.
• Physical sensation: Here’s a biology lesson: most of the sensitive nerves in the vagina are in the first few inches. So, having an excessively long penis doesn’t automatically mean more pleasure. In fact, it might cause discomfort or pain for your partner.

Believing that size is everything can mess with your head:

• Insecurity and Stress: Feeling like you don’t measure up can seriously mess with your self-esteem and cause a lot of stress and anxiety.
• Relationship Strain: If you’re too focused on size, it can strain your relationship. Your partner wants to feel loved and connected, not like they’re with a walking yardstick.
• Unhealthy Comparisons: Constantly comparing yourself to unrealistic standards is a recipe for feeling miserable. Remember, every person is unique, and what makes sex great is the bond you share, not your measurements.

How do we get past this myth and feel good about ourselves?

• Know your facts: Educate yourself about what really matters in sex—connection, communication, and mutual pleasure.
• Question media messages: Be critical of what you see in movies and porn. They’re entertainment, not real life.
• Talk it out: Open up to your partner about what you both enjoy. Good sex starts with good communication.
• Seek support: If worries about size are messing with your head or your relationship, don’t hesitate to talk to a professional. They can help you put things in perspective.

What is the bottom line?

Size is not everything. Believing that a bigger penis guarantees better sex is just not true. Science, real-life stories, and common sense all point to the fact that what really matters is how well you connect with your partner and how good you both feel together:

• Average is normal: Most guys fall within a normal range—don’t stress about being average.
• Focus on connection: Emotional intimacy and understanding are key to great sex, no matter what size you are.
• Challenge myths: Don’t buy into the hype. Educate yourself and others about what really makes sex satisfying.
• Get support: If you need help feeling confident and happy with yourself, reach out. There’s no shame in seeking guidance.

Let’s ditch the myths and embrace a healthier, happier view of ourselves and our relationships. Your worth as a partner isn’t measured in inches—it’s measured in the love, respect, and pleasure you bring to each other.