Infertility is always a woman’s fault is false

How widespread is the taboo?

Picture this: A couple has been trying for a baby for years, and suddenly, the aunties and uncles start whispering, “Eiyaa, this woman can’t give birth!” Meanwhile, nobody even asks if the man has checked himself. In many African families, when a couple struggles with infertility, fingers point straight at the woman. But medically speaking, infertility is not a “women’s issue”—it affects both men and women equally!

Why does this myth exist?

• Cultural beliefs: Many African traditions focus on a woman’s role as a mother, ignoring the man’s responsibility in reproduction.
• Lack of medical awareness: People assume that if a man can perform in bed, he must be fertile—big mistake!
• Pressure from family and society: Women bear the burden of childbearing, so when things don’t go as expected, they take the blame.

What is the impact of the myth?

• Unfair stigma: Women are shamed, ridiculed, or even abandoned because of something that may not be their fault.
• Neglecting men’s health: Many men don’t get fertility tests, assuming they are fine.
• Delayed medical solutions: Couples waste time blaming instead of seeking proper medical help.

How can we combat the myth?

• Medical facts: Infertility can come from men, women, or both.
• Encourage testing for both partners: Before blaming, let’s check the facts!
• Change the narrative: Families and communities must support couples without judgment.

What is the bottom line?

Infertility is not just a “woman’s problem.” Men, take responsibility too! Let’s replace blame with knowledge and support each other.