Seeking professional help for grief means you are not strong enough is a myth

How widespread is the taboo?

You lose a loved one, and suddenly everyone is watching you. “Be strong,” they say. “Don’t cry too much.” If you dare mention seeing a counselor, Auntie Esi gasps, “Are you not strong enough?” In many African communities, seeking help for grief is seen as a sign of weakness. But let’s be real—does ignoring pain make it disappear?

Why does this belief exist?

• Cultural expectations: We are taught to “take heart” and move on quickly.
• Fear of judgment: No one wants to be seen as “too emotional” or “too soft.”
• Lack of mental health awareness: People assume grief fades naturally, so why seek help?

What is the impact of the myth?

• Suppressed emotions: People pretend to be okay while struggling inside.
• Delayed healing: Unprocessed grief can lead to long-term emotional distress.
• Increased mental health issues: Depression, anxiety, and even physical illnesses can result.

How can we combat the myth?

• Encourage open grief discussions: It’s okay to talk about pain and loss.
• Educate with relatable examples: “Just like we visit a doctor for physical injuries, seeking help for emotional pain is equally important.”
• Encourage seeking help: Therapy and counseling provide healthy ways to heal.

What is the bottom line?

Seeking help for grief is not weakness—it’s wisdom. Healing takes support, not silence!